Was thinking of you……….

IMG_20140701_153129When I got to the office that morning, being the end of the month I started by reviewing my goals and achievements for the month and in that quarter in general. I was particularly bothered about how little I have been able to achieve in such a long time in major projects. I wrote the title of each project on a separate page and listed the reasons I couldn’t do much on them. I added ways on how I can possibly do better in the new month. Even with the hope that the month has the opportunity to achieve something better I concentrated on my flaws that resulted into low achievements.

With that I walked into my son’s school to pick him. He screamed and ran to me. Unusual I thought, what’s the excitement about? “I made a surprise for you! Come and see it.” He was pulling me to hurry. For a while, I forgot my office worry to share in his excitement. He led me to his class and pointed, “see, I drew you and wrote about you. Read what I wrote”. I told a long look at the image and read what he wrote about me. I was very proud of him but beyond that I was glad he was happy with what he has done. The composition reads. “My mom’s name is Emike. My mom is twenty six years old. My mom’s best food is rice. My mom’s friend is dad. My mom’s best colour is yellow.”

He’s four years with an amazing disposition. He watched me as I read it engrossed. I tried to remember what special thing I did for my mom at that age. I was mostly moved by his excitement and confidence.

“You look beautiful in my picture. You have a yellow hand with a long hair.”

“Really? But this doesn’t look like me.” I said admiring the drawing.

“Yes. It looks like you. It’s you.” He was now almost sobbing. “…and I was thinking of you when I drew it”. That caught me.

I hugged him close my eyes were moist too. Unlike me, my son wanted me to celebrate his effort whether I felt impressed or not. He wanted me to acknowledge he’s done something great. As far as he was concerned he drew the best picture of me any one could possibly have given. I told him I loved it, I promised I would frame and keep it for him.

He taught me a lesson. While I was worried about what I could not achieve in the last quarter I ignored the fact that there were also little achievements that I should applaud myself for. No matter how bad it was I refused to see the beauty in all the messes of the failed or slow projects. Like my son I needed the attitude of “it may not look perfect but I have progressed. I am no longer where I use to be.”

What’s your picture like? Something you are not proud of? Worse than anyone can ever imagine? Don’t be too hard on yourself, there are chances to perform better if you would wear the right attitude.

See you at the top!


Its end of the first half of the year, so what?

juicyAt the beginning of the year, most people come up with a list of what they want to achieve at a particular period in the course of the year. Then they begin to work towards it with expectations that their desires
will come true. Then something happens and things doesn’t go as planned.

Disappointment sets and one might become unnecessarily pressured seeing that half of the year has gone by and you have not achieved half of what you planned at the beginning of the year. But should this really be the case? Should we make our life plans according to how the days dictate or on our ability and whether we have set realistic targets considering our current situation.

One of my new year dreams was to become a chartered international PR consultant. This was a target I moved from last year. As the year started with expectations, I took some of the trainings and examinations in pursuit of my desire. Unfortunately, I did not consider that my business young and needed as much money and time as I could afford. Your guess is as good as mine on what happened next. I performed woefully in both business and in my exams. As much as I am not proud saying it, this is what happens to some of us sometimes. We fix a target for something we want to achieve without considering all the variables.When I got through with the first stage of the exams, I could not pay the fees for the next stage. Not only was the exams expensive, one has to be online at certain hours of the day for lectures. My new business was already suffering and some clients had complained that I was not giving their job priority. It was tough and I still wanted to achieve that much by mid year. Sadly, I dropped out of pursuing getting certified as an international PR consultant. Not for long though. I asked myself why I have put some much pressure on myself like most of us do.

The trust is we are each running our own race in our individual lanes, we are not in competition with anyone neither is anyone with us. So if you haven’t achieved what you planned don’t get too hard on your self. You can reset the target; the control is in your hand.

Don’t count your losses or regret over your misses in the first half; at least you learnt something – how not to fail. Do not use other people to measure your success or how well you are doing.


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