BLACK-COUPLE-FIGHTINGTo the married I give this charge (not I, but the Lord): the wife should not separate from her husband (but if she does, she should remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband), and the husband should not divorce his wife. 1 Corinthians 7:10-11 ESV

Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you. Ephesians 4:32 ESV

I once read about how a woman stabbed her husband several times to death. His offence? He was having an affair with a colleague, for four years he denied whenever the wife confronted him until she found out that he had a child by same woman!

Life generally is a continuous battle, and especially for a marriage with an unfaithful partner you have to stay strong and be brave. If a spouse falls victim, it could be a very challenging time and worse still if children are involved. However, this is not a time to pity yourself, give up, or be weak. FIGHT BACK!

It is a time to stand up, raise your head up high, squared shoulders and fight with everything within you till you win! It may take you some time or even years but you will surely win if you do not give up.

Here are few suggestions on what you could also use.

OPEN COMMUNICATION. The couple who can talk about almost everything and anything are likely to also talk about each other stuggles with no intention to hurt or spite the other. However, this may not be so easily handled by just anyone as we are mostly jealous and protective of the one we love. Talk about attractions! When open communication is encouraged and maintained it becomes easy to handle attractions that may lead to infidelity. Accept the possibility of being sexually attracted to another person than your spouse. This does not make you a sinner or hellbound. It only shows that you are human, all humans have weaknesses and can be overcome. Talk about it and seek solutions if it grows into having sexual fantasies. Talking to your spouse about your struggle does not mean you are weak, it only proves that you love your partner and want the marriage to work. On the other hand, be sure that your partner is MATURE enough and can handle such discussions.

COMMIT TO GOD. Do not wait for your spouse to fall into the temptation of desiring someone else before you begin to pray for him/her. As often as possible pray for him/her, not just so that they will succeed in other areas of their lives but to succeed in marriage too. The bible says, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In ALL YOUR WAYS acknowledge Him and he shall direct your path. (Proverbs 3:5-6).

I will be available to pray with you and give you practical counseling if you desire. Send a mail to

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