My name is Alexandra Oba. People call me Alex. I don’t like talking about my family because they were not very good people. Only my sister. She was also not a good person but later she started to love me. I wanted to be a nurse because I loved the white uniform. It always looked clean and smart. I dreamt everyday of me wearing it and walking around in a big hospital and a white folder in one arm. I often wondered how long I would have to be in school before that dream come through. I had told mum many times and she didn’t think someone as ugly as me was good enough to be a nurse. I was fat. Huge eyes. Continue reading

Overcome Sexual Abuse; Don’t Put Your Life On Hold

“I was abused by my step dad from the age of 9. He thought me to smoke cigarettes and take alcohol. At 10, open-door-emike-bini-1000x625I smoked like him. While we are not smoking or drinking, he was abusing me. My mom couldn’t say anything because he would beat her as he often did. He died of stroke when I was 15. It was hard for me to do anything else since life with him was the only way I knew to live. I had become used to his abuse, i wanted it. I soon got into the street. Mom could not stop me, I was already wild even before the death of her husband. On the street, I had many sex partners and slept with many people just to have food, alcohol, and cigarettes. At 20 I had been to prison up to four times. It was during one of my detention, I was in a cell with someone who claimed he did nothing wrong but was wrongly implicated. Even at that he had a strong believe that God was able to deliver him and restore him to his family. Here was a man in prison who did nothing wrong yet hoping on God to come to his aid, here was me who didn’t deserve to live. The man preached to me and I had a change of heart. I repented but I could not move on with my life. I had dropped out of school, haven’t heard from home in five years, I didn’t know how to move forward…”

The clock ticks as life goes on. Time and tide of life doesn’t wait for you to finish hurting. Get your life back on track again and keep going. Every dream or project you trashed because you thought you are not good enough. It’s time to pick them.


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How To Recover From Sexual Abuse And Live A Healthy Happy Life


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(excerpt from the book) There are certain issues an adult might exhibit if he/she has was abused as a child and yet to open the door for healing

  1. Uses drugs and alcohol to suppress the hurts and memory. It’s only temporal and the effect of drugs, alcohol mix with psychological trauma is more damaging.
  2. Low self-esteem; the belief that everyone else is better or the acceptance that they do not deserve anything good.
  3. There is tendency to be in an abusive relationship. An abused person is often in search of love because they believe that if they feel loved it would take care of the past experience. Most of the time they end of in the wrong relationship not even knowing what to look out for in an ideal partner.
  4. Hatred for the opposite sex
  5. Lack of trust for anyone especially for the opposite sex
  6. Self-hatred; a victim never sees anything good in themselves nor think they deserve anything good. They just exist with no intention to becoming anything good in life.
  7. Suicidal signal. Some prefer to die than live with the thought that the person who hurt them is still alive and perhaps happier than them.

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How To Recognise And love A Sexually Abused Child


While they are no sure ways to TOTALLY protect your child or ward from the chances of being sexually abused or even raped, there is ALOT you can do to reduce those chances. Many victims didn’t ‘expected’ it when it happened, even when they ‘know’, as children there is not much they can do especially if the abuser is someone very familiar to them and someone they trust and look up to. Continue reading