Don’t Hurt In Silence

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My recent book on Sexual Abuse and Incest titled ALEXANDRA generated amazing responses from places around the web where I shared excerpts. The responses were mostly from people who were once like Alex, sexually abused by someone they trusted and looked up to for protection and had intimate relationship with family members (mostly cousins) they thought they were in love with.

Now as adult, they not only find it difficult to forgive themselves and letting go of the past but they hurt deeply and sometimes replay such events in their mind.

Would you want to let it out so WE (you and I) can pray together and trust God for healing and total restoration?

Listening, giving advice and suggestions is more than a hobby for me, it’s a CALLING. It is more than fulfilling a passion; it is something I have been ‘engraced’ to do. What an awesome privilege! The satisfaction is indescribable when after counseling, I can virtually see the smiles on faces, I can hear laughter, I can see a new enthusiasm to move on and overcome…

It’s not even really only the counseling, but the fact that we can pray and believe God on something and wait together to see it come to pass.

The truth is, sometimes life issues can become overwhelming and you just need that one person to believe in you, remind you of God’s promises and the fact that you can make it in the face of the prevailing circumstance…

Just a friend to be there for you, I am here!

Or trying to deal with a past and get over it, but it seem like the more you try the bigger the picture of the hurt…

There’s no matter too hard for God to handle…

It is God’s intention that none should suffer except those who choose to remind in disobedience, this is why He sent Jesus, “so we might have life and enjoy that life…” What an awesome expression of love.

Whatever the issue He can sort it out.

Email me (emikeoyemade@gmail.com) to book a chat session now!

16 Signs That You May Still Be Hurting From Sexual Abuse*

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  1. Uses drugs and alcohol to suppress the hurts and memory. It’s only temporal and the effect of drugs, alcohol mix with psychological trauma is more damaging.
  2. Low self-esteem; the belief that everyone else is better or the acceptance that they do not deserve anything good. Continue reading

Overcome Sexual Abuse; Don’t Put Your Life On Hold

“I was abused by my step dad from the age of 9. He thought me to smoke cigarettes and take alcohol. At 10, open-door-emike-bini-1000x625I smoked like him. While we are not smoking or drinking, he was abusing me. My mom couldn’t say anything because he would beat her as he often did. He died of stroke when I was 15. It was hard for me to do anything else since life with him was the only way I knew to live. I had become used to his abuse, i wanted it. I soon got into the street. Mom could not stop me, I was already wild even before the death of her husband. On the street, I had many sex partners and slept with many people just to have food, alcohol, and cigarettes. At 20 I had been to prison up to four times. It was during one of my detention, I was in a cell with someone who claimed he did nothing wrong but was wrongly implicated. Even at that he had a strong believe that God was able to deliver him and restore him to his family. Here was a man in prison who did nothing wrong yet hoping on God to come to his aid, here was me who didn’t deserve to live. The man preached to me and I had a change of heart. I repented but I could not move on with my life. I had dropped out of school, haven’t heard from home in five years, I didn’t know how to move forward…”

The clock ticks as life goes on. Time and tide of life doesn’t wait for you to finish hurting. Get your life back on track again and keep going. Every dream or project you trashed because you thought you are not good enough. It’s time to pick them.

Shalom!

Excerpt from my new ebook. To read more sample, review and purchase click this link

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How To Recover From Sexual Abuse And Live A Healthy Happy Life

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*Same link to purchase and review

(excerpt from the book) There are certain issues an adult might exhibit if he/she has was abused as a child and yet to open the door for healing

  1. Uses drugs and alcohol to suppress the hurts and memory. It’s only temporal and the effect of drugs, alcohol mix with psychological trauma is more damaging.
  2. Low self-esteem; the belief that everyone else is better or the acceptance that they do not deserve anything good.
  3. There is tendency to be in an abusive relationship. An abused person is often in search of love because they believe that if they feel loved it would take care of the past experience. Most of the time they end of in the wrong relationship not even knowing what to look out for in an ideal partner.
  4. Hatred for the opposite sex
  5. Lack of trust for anyone especially for the opposite sex
  6. Self-hatred; a victim never sees anything good in themselves nor think they deserve anything good. They just exist with no intention to becoming anything good in life.
  7. Suicidal signal. Some prefer to die than live with the thought that the person who hurt them is still alive and perhaps happier than them.

Click here to read a sample of my new ebook http://amzn.to/1DSiaJR

RAPED AND ABUSED, NEED TO GET OVER IT

?????????????????????????????????????“15 years ago, a man who I trusted and looked up to for protection and care took advantage of me. He did it more than once…I cried until I got used to it. Till date I can still see him coming to me and his face beaming with wicked smiles. I promised to kill him when I grow up but God came into the picture. Continue reading