Don’t Hurt In Silence

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My recent book on Sexual Abuse and Incest titled ALEXANDRA generated amazing responses from places around the web where I shared excerpts. The responses were mostly from people who were once like Alex, sexually abused by someone they trusted and looked up to for protection and had intimate relationship with family members (mostly cousins) they thought they were in love with.

Now as adult, they not only find it difficult to forgive themselves and letting go of the past but they hurt deeply and sometimes replay such events in their mind.

Would you want to let it out so WE (you and I) can pray together and trust God for healing and total restoration?

Listening, giving advice and suggestions is more than a hobby for me, it’s a CALLING. It is more than fulfilling a passion; it is something I have been ‘engraced’ to do. What an awesome privilege! The satisfaction is indescribable when after counseling, I can virtually see the smiles on faces, I can hear laughter, I can see a new enthusiasm to move on and overcome…

It’s not even really only the counseling, but the fact that we can pray and believe God on something and wait together to see it come to pass.

The truth is, sometimes life issues can become overwhelming and you just need that one person to believe in you, remind you of God’s promises and the fact that you can make it in the face of the prevailing circumstance…

Just a friend to be there for you, I am here!

Or trying to deal with a past and get over it, but it seem like the more you try the bigger the picture of the hurt…

There’s no matter too hard for God to handle…

It is God’s intention that none should suffer except those who choose to remind in disobedience, this is why He sent Jesus, “so we might have life and enjoy that life…” What an awesome expression of love.

Whatever the issue He can sort it out.

Email me (emikeoyemade@gmail.com) to book a chat session now!

How To ‘Recognise’ And Help A Teen Addicted To Masturbation

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It is impossible to know if someone is addicted to masturbation by merely looking at them or talking to them. Not even a doctor can tell if someone masturbates except if it has irritated the penis or vaginal area to become sore. Continue reading

BACK OFF OR COMPROMISE; DON’T MAKE YOURSELF MISERABLE

Sometimes I find it hard understanding why some people deliberately complicate life for themselves especially in their choice of a partner. Someone sees a danger sign and still plunges into that potential ‘bad relationship’ with the hope that ???????????????????????????????????????????????????love will make all things right. As much as I believe in the power of love and it’s capability to make wrong right, there are certain things about a person or a relationship that may never change if the motive is wrong and if the person is unwilling to compromise. Continue reading

WILL MY ADDICTION TO MASTURBATION AFFECT MY SEX LIFE?

Who wants a doughnut when you can have a delicious-juicy hamburger with crunchy veggies? It’s a lame comparison. They can’t substitute for each other.

Masturbation is JUST doughnut. Sex IN MARRIAGE is that delicious-juicy hamburger. And yes being addicted masturbation can AFFECT your sex life. Negatively.

BTW- Sex outside marriage is WRONG. Paul said, 1 Cor 6: 16- “There’s more to sex than mere skin on skin. Sex is as much spiritual mystery as physical fact. As written in Scripture, “The two become one.” Since we want to become spiritually one with the Master, we must not pursue the kind of sex that avoids commitment and intimacy, leaving us more lonely than ever—the kind of sex that can never “become one.” There is a sense in which sexual sins are different from all others. In sexual sin we violate the sacredness of our own bodies, these bodies that were made for God-given and God-modeled love… Continue reading

Common Questions And Answers on Masturbation*

  • I stopped masturbating last year but I have gone back to it because I cannot stop thinking about it. What do I do?

You have already answered your question. You went back to masturbating because you keep thinking about it. Once you have quit, you have to win the ‘mind-battle’ by consciously not thinking about it. If you find yourself thinking about it when you are alone, idle, or taking your bath, please read up all the points on How To Overcome Addiction To Masturbation Continue reading

Overcoming Addiction To Masturbation

  1. Overcoming this habit is really up to you. No one can make you stop it if you do not want to. So, make up your mind and stop thinking about Masturbating.
  2. You are human and humans make mistakes.  You have been making a mistake if you have been masturbating. Are you willing to correct that mistake? Forgive yourself and bear in mind that you are more than all your mistakes
  3. Understand that you cannot do it on your own; without the help of God. Do you know how to pray? Sincerely ask Him to forgive you and tell Him that you need His help to stop. He will answer.
  4. If the temptation comes whenever you are naked, then avoid sleeping without your clothes on. Dress up as soon as you have your bath. Continue reading