Don’t Hurt In Silence

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My recent book on Sexual Abuse and Incest titled ALEXANDRA generated amazing responses from places around the web where I shared excerpts. The responses were mostly from people who were once like Alex, sexually abused by someone they trusted and looked up to for protection and had intimate relationship with family members (mostly cousins) they thought they were in love with.

Now as adult, they not only find it difficult to forgive themselves and letting go of the past but they hurt deeply and sometimes replay such events in their mind.

Would you want to let it out so WE (you and I) can pray together and trust God for healing and total restoration?

Listening, giving advice and suggestions is more than a hobby for me, it’s a CALLING. It is more than fulfilling a passion; it is something I have been ‘engraced’ to do. What an awesome privilege! The satisfaction is indescribable when after counseling, I can virtually see the smiles on faces, I can hear laughter, I can see a new enthusiasm to move on and overcome…

It’s not even really only the counseling, but the fact that we can pray and believe God on something and wait together to see it come to pass.

The truth is, sometimes life issues can become overwhelming and you just need that one person to believe in you, remind you of God’s promises and the fact that you can make it in the face of the prevailing circumstance…

Just a friend to be there for you, I am here!

Or trying to deal with a past and get over it, but it seem like the more you try the bigger the picture of the hurt…

There’s no matter too hard for God to handle…

It is God’s intention that none should suffer except those who choose to remind in disobedience, this is why He sent Jesus, “so we might have life and enjoy that life…” What an awesome expression of love.

Whatever the issue He can sort it out.

Email me (emikeoyemade@gmail.com) to book a chat session now!

15 SIGNS THAT YOU MAY NEED TO QUIT YOUR RELATIONSHIP  

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  1. Lack Of Trust For Each Other

Trust is a major ingredient in any relationship. You cannot really love as expected in a romantic relationship if you do not trust your partner. If you believe they can lie to you in anyway, you may find it difficult to believe when he or she tells you “I love you.” Continue reading

How To Recover From Sexual Abuse And Live A Healthy Happy Life

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(excerpt from the book) There are certain issues an adult might exhibit if he/she has was abused as a child and yet to open the door for healing

  1. Uses drugs and alcohol to suppress the hurts and memory. It’s only temporal and the effect of drugs, alcohol mix with psychological trauma is more damaging.
  2. Low self-esteem; the belief that everyone else is better or the acceptance that they do not deserve anything good.
  3. There is tendency to be in an abusive relationship. An abused person is often in search of love because they believe that if they feel loved it would take care of the past experience. Most of the time they end of in the wrong relationship not even knowing what to look out for in an ideal partner.
  4. Hatred for the opposite sex
  5. Lack of trust for anyone especially for the opposite sex
  6. Self-hatred; a victim never sees anything good in themselves nor think they deserve anything good. They just exist with no intention to becoming anything good in life.
  7. Suicidal signal. Some prefer to die than live with the thought that the person who hurt them is still alive and perhaps happier than them.

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15 SIGNS SHE MAY NOT BE INTO YOU

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Guys are hunters, babes are games. Once a guy purposes to catch a game he hardly gives up until the game is securely in his grip. Naturally, ladies like to be chased and she enjoys the ‘playing-hard-to-get’ game. This is not bad; makes the whole hunting process fun but there comes a time when the hunter knows that the game Continue reading

BACK OFF OR COMPROMISE; DON’T MAKE YOURSELF MISERABLE

Sometimes I find it hard understanding why some people deliberately complicate life for themselves especially in their choice of a partner. Someone sees a danger sign and still plunges into that potential ‘bad relationship’ with the hope that ???????????????????????????????????????????????????love will make all things right. As much as I believe in the power of love and it’s capability to make wrong right, there are certain things about a person or a relationship that may never change if the motive is wrong and if the person is unwilling to compromise. Continue reading

WHAT’S WRONG WITH ‘MASTURBATING’ MY SPOUSE?

Absolutely everything! Because if you don’t someone will!

Maybe the question should then have been ‘what’s wrong with making passionate love to my spouse?” Your spouse!!! If you don’t then be prepared, someone else is going to do it FOR YOU. And maybe better.?????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????

So, I started an online masturbation series and I get overwhelming responses and questions. I am going to answer this as truthful as I can and i am not going to talk about everything else i have said about masturbation before. Continue reading

20 REASONS NOT TO GET MARRIED. ABSOLUTELY FREE!!! RECEIVE A FREE COPY OF MY EBOOK

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Some people’s life ‘goal is to GET MARRIED and it’s a good thing especially when it’s that one special person you have always dreamed of.

For many that “yes I do” is a dream come true! And that simple response can either be an introduction to a life of marital bliss in the face of challenges or a walk into hurts and heartbreak when the marriage cannot stand the realities of marriage.

In this book, I have put together 20 suggestions on what should NOT form your SOLE decision to get married.

It contains most of the things that are likely to influence your commitment decision and whether they are worth giving a priority or not.

To download click 20 REASONS NOT TO MARRY

WILL MY ADDICTION TO MASTURBATION AFFECT MY SEX LIFE?

Who wants a doughnut when you can have a delicious-juicy hamburger with crunchy veggies? It’s a lame comparison. They can’t substitute for each other.

Masturbation is JUST doughnut. Sex IN MARRIAGE is that delicious-juicy hamburger. And yes being addicted masturbation can AFFECT your sex life. Negatively.

BTW- Sex outside marriage is WRONG. Paul said, 1 Cor 6: 16- “There’s more to sex than mere skin on skin. Sex is as much spiritual mystery as physical fact. As written in Scripture, “The two become one.” Since we want to become spiritually one with the Master, we must not pursue the kind of sex that avoids commitment and intimacy, leaving us more lonely than ever—the kind of sex that can never “become one.” There is a sense in which sexual sins are different from all others. In sexual sin we violate the sacredness of our own bodies, these bodies that were made for God-given and God-modeled love… Continue reading

NO ONE CAN BOAST TO BE SUPERHUMAN WHEN IT COMES TO OVERCOMING SEXUAL TEMPTATIONS

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Guilty!

Before you begin to throw stones of accusations at someone ‘caught in the act’, bear in mind that no one gets married with the intention of hurting their spouse or sleeping with someone else apart from the mate to whom they pledged “till death do us part.”

Every married person is susceptible to extramarital affair. It is not about been smart or having a special skill in dealing with the opposite sex. It is not even about how anointed you are or how many demons you can cast out. The chemistry between a man and a woman when there is a spark takes only grace to stay victorious.

In this book, Caught in the Act, you will discover

  • reasons people indulge in extramarital affairs
  • how to avoid it
  • what to do if or when it occurs
  • and how to break free from unnecessary entanglement

“…let he that thinks he stands take heed lest he falls.”